A woman has revealed how she was beaten by fellow concert-goers after she disagreed with a man who used a gender-neutral toilet at a concert venue.
Post to mumsnet, the woman revealed that she disagreed with the man who used the woman’s bathroom after noticing that there was a long queue for the toilet, but no one was waiting to use the gentlemen.
But after she said she should be able to use the bathroom for him, “others in line turned against her” and said he “had a perfect right” to use the toilets.
Other Mumsnet users jumped in her defense, with many suggesting the man was “a creep” and one added, “I’m sure there were other women in line who quietly agreed with you.”
A British woman has revealed how she was beaten by fellow concert-goers after she disagreed with a man who used a gender-neutral toilet at a concert venue
On the website she wrote: ‘Went to a live music venue last night. In a very waking south coast seaside town for context.
‘At the end of the evening I went to the toilet before I left for home. As so often the line for the ladies was long, not a real line for the gentlemen.
“I got in line and noticed that the person in front of me was not a man who just kept his partner company while she waited, as I first thought, but a man waiting to go to the toilet. He wasn’t a trans woman, he was a man and a drunk too.’
She continued, “I told him he was in the wrong row and pointed to the gentlemen. He said he wanted to use these toilets.
The woman posted to Mumsnet, revealing that she disagreed with the man who used the woman’s bathroom after noticing that there was a long queue for the toilet but no one was waiting to use the gentlemen
“I asked why, he said they are gender neutral so he can. (I don’t know if they are – they probably are because they had a multitude of arrows on the door.)
“I said I’m a woman who has to use the woman’s facilities and I’d rather do that than him.”
However, she said others in line immediately criticized her for her comments, revealing: “The queue of women turned on me and said I couldn’t block him, reiterating that these are gender neutral toilets.
‘I said I can’t use a urinal and indeed went ahead of him to go to the toilet first. When I was done, I called the woman behind him to come forward and use the bathroom, which she did.
Other users on the site had a mixed reaction to her comments, with some calling the man “a creep” for trying to use the bathroom
“The other women were very angry with me for blocking him, claiming he had every right to use these toilets.
Men and women keep separate toilets as part of government plans to move away from ‘gender-neutral’ facilities
Men and women will keep their separate toilets as part of the government’s plans to move out of ‘gender neutral’ facilities.
In recent years, same-sex cubicles have been snatched up and replaced by facilities where men and women mix.
But in a blow to transgender lobbyists, The Mail on Sunday taught that public toilets and office spaces should have separate toilets by default, but could also provide another ‘safe space’ for those who want it.
A Whitehall source told the MoS: ‘For dignity, safety and security, the proper provision of separate men’s and women’s toilets is important.
‘That is why we are looking at options for keeping separate toilets standard.’
The move is part of an overhaul of publicly accessible restrooms.
The proposals include not only facilities for disabled bathrooms, but also the provision of a self-contained toilet for all those seeking privacy.
The issue of gender-neutral toilets has become a battleground between transgender rights activists and feminists, who claim they can “disadvantage” women.
A YouGov poll this summer found that fewer than one in 20 women were in favor of replacing men’s and women’s toilets with gender-neutral toilets.
‘Did I do the wrong thing?’
She continued: “I’ve been thinking about contacting the venue to understand what their toilet facility is and to ask if it’s right to have a man in the ladies (or are they gender neutral? Can anyone tell the use ‘gentlemen’)?’
However, other Mumsnet users were less convinced that she had done something wrong.
One outraged person wrote: ‘How sad that the women turned against you. We really need to stand together and help each other. That man was a creep.’
Meanwhile, another commented, “Good for you. According to your description, the toilets do not meet the requirements to be gender neutral and the fact that the men had their own toilets is discrimination based on gender. This has to stop.’
A third wrote: ‘Sounds like a weird setup. Why do men deserve segregated toilets when women just have to use gender neutral ones?
‘Shouldn’t they all be gender neutral? Is this a common setup? (Don’t go out much.”
A fourth added: ‘Well done. The man sounds like a creep. I’m sure there were other women in line who quietly agreed with you.’
However, others criticized the woman for pushing in front of the man.
One wrote: ‘You have attacked someone who had every right to use the gender neutral facilities and also encouraged someone else to do the same?
“And you ask us how come everyone else in line is chatting to you?”
The Old Vic theater scrapped the male and female toilets and replaced them with ‘self-selection’ facilities to be used by both sexes in October 2019.
London’s historic theater in Waterloo had previously pledged to double the number of women’s toilets to tackle the industry-wide problem of long queues for women’s toilets.
Instead, however, all male and female toilets have been replaced by cubicles or urinals, which can be used by both men and women.
The move sparked criticism on social media, especially as the theater ran a £100,000 fundraising campaign in 2018 with Joanna Lumley and Glenda Jackson specifically promising more women’s toilets at the venue.
Under the new system, women will have access to 24 toilets, which should be shared with men. Men, on the other hand, have access to 42 facilities, including urinals that only they would use.
Feminist campaigner Caroline Criado-Perez said on Twitter: “Just looked back at my photos because I remember tweeting about @oldvictheatre crowdfunder specifically for more ‘ladies loos’. And yes. They didn’t indicate that there would in fact be no women’s toilets at all.’
She added that the theater “ultimately gave men 18 facilities that were practically just for them, plus 24 that they share with women.
“So that’s 42 men they have access to. Meanwhile, women have access to 24 that they share with men. This is an improvement how?’