A woman who was her best friend’s birth partner has revealed her pain when she learned weeks later that her own cheating husband was the father of the baby she helped deliver.
Hailey Custer, 28, of Wickenburg, Arizona, says she was heartbroken after learning that her husband, Travis Bowling, 36, had allegedly cheated on her with her close boyfriend.
The mother of four says she was devastated to see a birth defect on the baby’s neck, after being there “every step” to support her unnamed best friend during labor – including wearing baby clothes the hospital’s ‘dad wristband’. which was identical to her husband’s.
After confronting the couple with her suspicions that her partner had fathered the baby, her worst fears were confirmed – and she now claims Bowling cheated on her with as many as 30 women during their marriage.
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Hailey Custer, 28, of Arizona, who was married to husband Travis Bowling, 36, for six years and had four children with him, claims she found out he was a serial cheater when her best friend gave birth to his baby
Mother of four Custer, right, says she had no idea her best friend, left, slept with her husband and even helped deliver her daughter after she got pregnant
Custer pictured with the baby she helped deliver, not realizing at the time her own husband was the father – she says ‘I even gave the baby her first bath’
The 28-year-old says she was excited to help deliver her friend’s baby but had no idea it was her husband’s child after the alleged cheating scandal.
She also claims her now ex-husband cheated on her with at least 30 different women during their marriage — and even had two children with two different women while married to Hailey.
Hailey, who works in the administration, said: “I heard rumors that my girlfriend was pregnant and homeless, so I contacted her. I felt the need to help her.
“We are all charismatic people, so we all had that nature to be charismatic around each other and joke. I didn’t see anything there. I was very naive, so I just didn’t think it would be possible for someone to do that.
“We had just come home from the hospital and I was changing the baby when she twisted her neck and the birth defect jumped out. When they’re babies, it’s very hard to see, and I wasn’t looking for it.
“I felt it and was like ‘ok’, this shock came over me.
“When I found my girlfriend standing next to me, I looked at her and you could just tell. She couldn’t say anything, she just lowered her head and looked at the ground, and I just knew.
The couple in the photo with three of their four children; Custer says she was naive not to realize her husband and boyfriend had started an affair, blamed their flirtatious relationship on the fact that “they are charismatic people”
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“No words were said, I just knew. “I was very shocked at first, I couldn’t even process what had happened, it was almost a phase of sadness.
“Like you have your shock, your anger and you come to the conclusion that this is really real life, this is really happening.”
Hailey said she was excited to help her best friend – who she won’t name by name – with the delivery and even helped with the delivery and their first bath.
She said, “In the hospital, before I found out, I got into that father figure role.
In the hospital, she even wore the ‘daddy wristband’ while she was her boyfriend’s birth partner, but a rare neck defect – passed down to the little girl by her husband – eventually exposed their affair.
Sham: Custer and Bowling on their wedding day; she says she now believes he slept with as many as 30 other women while they were together
However, she says that as time goes by, she has decided to have a ‘warm’ relationship with her ex-husband
The administrative assistant shared her story on TikTok, with her original video gaining more than 3.4 million views
“I was there for her every step of the way. Even in the hospital I wore the daddy wristband, when she got her epidural she lay down on me.
“I actually gave the baby her first bath.”
After the heartbreaking ordeal, Hailey has found forgiveness in herself and plans to continue her friendship with the boyfriend and have a cordial relationship with her ex-husband for the sake of her children.
She explained: “For me, I was a bit in shock. I walked out when I first discovered it and just prayed.
“If you don’t forgive yourself, it’s like drinking poison and wanting them to die…
‘I kept hearing the words in my head, ‘bigger picture’. For me that meant: stop with your tunnel vision.
“Now we have this innocent child who had nothing to say in this whole situation, you have someone who has nowhere to go, who has no family, we are not going to kick them out on the street.
‘I kept thinking about my children, after all that is their blood relative brother and sister and I will not be the one to harm that child. So she ended up staying with us.’
Hailey, who shared her story on TikTok with her original video garnering more than 3.4 million views, opened up about some of the comments she received
She said, “I’ve had one or two comments that were clearly male and narcissistic and said, ‘Well, if you’d taken care of your husband, he wouldn’t have cheated.
Forgiveness: She says if she doesn’t forgive the couple, she will get more pain
The decision to take her friend in after the birth, despite what had happened, has helped the family move on… and she intends to keep their friendship alive.
“However, many of the comments were in support of me but there was some heat towards my friend which I am trying to shut down as soon as possible as that was not my aim.
“It now has 3.4 million views and just got blown up. It is huge for everyone to know that I have found forgiveness for myself. I have had to seek forgiveness for myself and for the children.
“That’s the main point, you can go through anything in life, and you can find forgiveness, it just heals you from within.
“If you don’t forgive yourself, it’s like drinking poison and wanting them to die. If I forgive myself, it means I forgive because I can’t stay sick anymore.’
Travis Bowling and Hailey’s friend have declined to comment.