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Mother-in-law criticized for disgracing her daughter-in-law

A mother-in-law has been branded ‘insulting’ and ‘terrible’ after she shamed her daughter-in-law by calling her fat – then asked for all her smaller clothes.

Post on the UK parenting site mumsnet, the unnamed woman told how her mother-in-law had insulted her, and to make matters worse, she received no support from her husband.

The size 12 woman explained that her mother-in-law had branded her “so fat” and claimed there is no hope that she will lose her baby weight now that her child is two years old, and that she should hand her “so fat.”really nice dresses because I will never fit in them again’.

Commentators were outraged, saying the woman should set boundaries to prevent her mother-in-law from being abusive, while others said her husband should stand up for her more.

A poster (not pictured) on the parenting forum Mumsnet has gained support after writing about how her mother-in-law (not pictured) was making her fat

A poster (not pictured) on the parenting forum Mumsnet has gained support after writing about how her mother-in-law (not pictured) was making her fat

The poster revealed that not only had her mother-in-law insulted her, she also has 'no limits' when it comes to people's belongings

The poster revealed that not only had her mother-in-law insulted her, she also has 'no limits' when it comes to people's belongings

The poster revealed that not only had her mother-in-law insulted her, she also has ‘no limits’ when it comes to people’s belongings

The woman explained the situation, saying that her mother-in-law had given her some dresses when she got married, in keeping with family tradition.

“She only wants to give a few to my sister-in-law. I politely told my mother-in-law that I will lose weight, but I haven’t really tried it yet. Her answer was, “No, you don’t. Your child is now almost two years old and you are still fat.”

Angrily, the woman spoke to her husband who said his mother was “right” and “it’s no use keeping clothes you can’t wear anymore.”

“My sisters think it’s hilarious that she asks and my husband doesn’t support me. After all, they’re my clothes and I think it’s weird to give them away because my mother-in-law has decided I’ll never fit in them.’

An update to the post added: ‘She has no limits, she will have no problem opening my wardrobes.

“She once complained that she tried to open a suitcase in my wardrobe, but couldn’t because I locked it! I really hate this woman. I’ve really tried to see the best in her over the years. She’s terrible.’

Multiple commenters thought the poster should set more boundaries and be more assertive when it comes to her mother-in-law

Multiple commenters thought the poster should set more boundaries and be more assertive when it comes to her mother-in-law

Multiple commenters thought the poster should set more boundaries and be more assertive when it comes to her mother-in-law

Some Mumsnetters felt that the poster should be more assertive and set boundaries.

One wrote: ‘I think you need to be more assertive! Your mother in law clearly sees herself as a matriarch and thinks she has the right to say and do whatever she pleases, if you don’t stand up to her she will continue to do so until she dies.

“Personally I would give her the dresses because I really wouldn’t want to wear anything she gave me, even if you eventually fit in she will still be critical and mean and do her best to make you feel uncomfortable. ‘

Another added: ‘People like your mother-in-law only understand one language and it’s blunt and firm. Don’t lower yourself to her level, but politely and firmly tell her to mind her own damn business. She says things like that because she gets away with it.’

And another wrote: ‘She has no limits, so you must have some.’

The mother-in-law has been heavily criticized, with some commentators calling her behavior 'offensive'

The mother-in-law has been heavily criticized, with some commentators calling her behavior 'offensive'

The mother-in-law has been heavily criticized, with some commentators calling her behavior ‘offensive’

The mother-in-law received universal criticism, with one commentator labeling her as “offensive.”

They wrote: “Abusive relationships are not always just husband and wife. The way she treats you is not good. If she comes into your house and steals your belongings, I think I’d honestly call the police. Can you get a lock for the door of them/your bedroom? Your husband sounds just as awful. How is your relationship with him in general?’

Another agreed, writing: “She’s abusive and your husband is a mother’s boy.”

A third simply said, “This hideous witch should not have a key to your house.”

Numerous commentators thought the poster's husband was just as bad - if not worse - than the mother-in-law for failing to stand up for his wife

Numerous commentators thought the poster's husband was just as bad - if not worse - than the mother-in-law for failing to stand up for his wife

Numerous commentators thought the poster’s husband was just as bad – if not worse – than the mother-in-law for failing to stand up for his wife

Other posters were more annoyed by the man’s reaction.

One wrote: ‘You can easily lose the opportunity of your husband not standing up for you and his MIL. If it helps, I dropped two dress sizes much later post-pregnancy than you. I’m back to the size I wore for my first baby, now in sixth, and I know I could lose more if I wanted to.”

Another said: ‘Terrible way to be treated, no wonder you feel down. Why doesn’t your husband stand up for you and tell his mother how upset you are about her treatment? Personally, I wouldn’t have a family member in my house who treated me like that. Good luck.’

A third added: ‘Ugh mother-in-law sounds awful, but I also think your husband is the one who needs to get wise and realize you won’t put up with infidelity. It sounds awful and suspect that your husband would (currently) support her (crazy) actions, which is not good for your well-being.’

A number of posters pointed out that the size of the poster doesn't matter - it's the rudeness of the mother-in-law that is the problem

A number of posters pointed out that the size of the poster doesn't matter - it's the rudeness of the mother-in-law that is the problem

A number of posters pointed out that the size of the poster doesn’t matter – it’s the rudeness of the mother-in-law that is the problem

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