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Could YOU be best friends with your husband’s ex-wife?

When most women communicate with their husband’s ex-wife, it is usually handled with velvet gloves and a large dose of diplomacy.

So it’s all the more refreshing to discover that not everyone has such a difficult relationship with the ex. Indeed, model Miranda Kerr, who has a son with actor Orlando Bloom, recently spoke of her ex-husband’s fiancée, singer Katy Perry: ‘We’re going on vacation together. We celebrate all the important milestones together,” she said. ‘I love her. I mean, you can safely say I love her more than Flynn’s dad.”

So who found friendship in this minefield? SAMANTHA BRICK spoke to four groups of women – and the men they have in common – who claim to be the best of friends. . .


Miranda Price, 42, a karate instructor and executive assistant, is dating Paul Giles, 42, a greenkeeper. They live in Tring, Hertfordshire. Miranda says:

I met Paul on a dating app in January last year, just before the lockdown. Paul was very open about his relationship with his ex-wife Lisa. It was really clear to me that there was no animosity between them.

At the beginning of March we had a short introduction and in September Lisa came to Paul’s house with the children, where we first met each other well. We played hide and seek together, which made for a fun afternoon in a one bedroom house!

It was very important to give Paul and Lisa the space to work through their new co-parenting arrangements. My relationship with Lisa has evolved naturally.

For the past two years, Paul and I have helped where we can and will continue to do so. She is a mother who lives alone and runs a business during a pandemic. It is important that women support each other.

Lisa is very nice and I am very happy that we are friends.

Paul’s ex-wife Lisa Giles, 40, is a mindset coach. She lives in Hertfordshire with her eight-year-old son and five-year-old daughter. Lisa says:

Paul's ex-wife Lisa Giles (left) pictured with his new girlfriend Miranda Price (right)

Paul’s ex-wife Lisa Giles (left) pictured with his new girlfriend Miranda Price (right)

After 12 years together, Paul and I broke up in October 2019 and three months later he started seeing Miranda. It was a shock that he had moved on so quickly, but I did my homework to keep a blended family working.

Before the kids knew about Miranda, I met her on a video call with Paul, which went well. I knew the kids would pick up on my positive attitude, and if I was happy, they would be too.

I take her and Paul on dog walks with the kids and although it’s a relatively new friendship, we really complement each other.

Miranda is a strong person to get into a situation where I am regularly involved in her partner’s life. Still, I can see she’s a much better match for Paul.

We are so close that we are now starting a company together. This is because of our shared values ​​and commitment to each other. I’m really glad we made it work.

PAUL SAYS: I’m glad Miranda and Lisa get along. It makes life easier for everyone. It didn’t surprise me that they would bond because they are both fun, caring people. My friends are positive about it and see that it is a good example for the children.

In the photo: Paul and Lisa when they were married

In the photo: Paul and Lisa when they were married

In the photo: Paul and Lisa when they were married


Rebecca Smith, 42, a quality consultant, is married to Darren, 47, a transportation manager. They live in Pulloxhill, Bedfordshire, with their children Darcy, 11, Max, nine, and Oscar, three. Darren has a son Sammy, 17, from his first marriage to Maria. Rebecca says:

When Darren and I got together in November 2007, I was naturally nervous to meet Maria. In the beginning it was not always easy; I would never have gotten along with any of my exes’ previous partners. But if you’re decent people who want to make a situation work, you can.

I didn’t want our relationship to be just about dropping off the kids coolly, so like it or not, Maria was a part of my life and I welcomed her into my home. She’s been a friend from the start.

Maria moved to Devon seven years ago and we have worked hard to maintain our friendship. She recently hosted a birthday party for my daughter, Darcy. We had been on vacation near Maria’s new home and the children—my three, Maria’s two, and the one we share—loved spending time together.

Pictured (L-R): Darren's new wife Rebecca, Darren and his ex-wife Maria

Pictured (L-R): Darren's new wife Rebecca, Darren and his ex-wife Maria

Pictured (L-R): Darren’s new wife Rebecca, Darren and his ex-wife Maria

Friends are often surprised that we do this. I am extremely proud of our relationship.

Darren’s ex-wife Maria Bailey, 45, is a grief counselor and principal of Cope Academy. She has sons Sammy, 17, and George, seven, and Holly, five with husband Luke. They live in Paignton, Devon. Mary says:

Darren and I parted ways amicably in February 2007. I had promised myself a year off, so it was hard to see him move on so quickly. She was a friend of his boyfriend’s wife, we had been to social gatherings together. I liked her.

About the time they decided to move in together, I asked if I could meet her for a cup of tea. Although I had moved on emotionally, I was very nervous. But it was important to me that we all worked as a team for the sake of Sammy. Towards the end we came out looking great.

Becky and I have become very close and it helps that Darren and I still get along. When Becky was giving birth to Darcy, I rubbed her back. Her kids call me Aunt Mo these days.

DARREN SAYS: I am a very happy man. It makes my life easier. We have been able to socialize with each other and ensure the best for all of our children, especially Sammy. I was surprised how well they could find it.

MY mother in law thought it was strange…

Rianna Boyle, 28, a security guard, is married to Jamie, 32, also a security guard. They live in Basildon, Essex, with their children. Rianne says:

Jamie and I got together in August 2017 and five months later I met Jennifer. They have a son together and it was important for her to get to know me.

Jamie leaves the arrangements until the last minute, while Jennifer, like me, is more organized. Occasionally I would come in to put things in order. We discovered that we really liked each other. Jennifer likes to babysit our children. I can proudly say that there is no hate in our lives. We talk daily. Jennifer even came to our wedding (right).

Other friends think it’s a little weird and at first Jamie’s mom thought our relationship was unusual. But I’m glad we got it right.

Pictured LR: Rianna Boyle, Jamie's wife and his ex-wife Jennifer Baker

Pictured LR: Rianna Boyle, Jamie's wife and his ex-wife Jennifer Baker

Pictured LR: Rianna Boyle, Jamie’s wife and his ex-wife Jennifer Baker

Jamie’s ex-wife Jennifer Baker, 33, a photographer, lives with her partner, Duane Lansdale, 38, an account manager, her son Jacob, seven, and their son Lucas, nine months. They live in Southend, Essex. Jennifer says:

Jamie and I were together for eight years and married for two of them when we broke up in 2017. Jamie met Rianna five months later. I really liked her.

I recently had a health anxiety and Rianna has been a huge support and helped me emotionally. That’s the kind of person she is.

I never thought that my breakup with Jamie would give rise to this rather magical friendship with Rianna.

JAMIE SAYS: I’m glad they’re getting along. It makes it so much easier. I’m grateful to Rianna because things are really going well between me and Jen now.

In the photo: Jamie and Rianna on their wedding day

In the photo: Jamie and Rianna on their wedding day

In the photo: Jamie and Rianna on their wedding day


Jackie Judd, 49, an afternoon school superintendent, is married to Richard, 58, a former facilities manager. They have a son Paul, 23, and Richard has a daughter, Laura, 31, from his first marriage to Su. They live in Rugby, Warwickshire. jackie says:

Richard and I started meeting two years after his divorce. Su made it her job to get to know me, without saying anything that seeing Richard also gave me Laura. It was non-negotiable and I respected her for that.

We got through those initially tough years by holding family gatherings. We learned that there was no point in talking about problems behind each other’s backs.

There have been times when we fell out for stupid reasons. For example, at the christening of Su’s daughter Shannon, I announced that I was pregnant with my son Paul. Su thought this was the wrong time. I was wrong to have done that and admitted it, and we were soon done.

She is an incredibly sweet person. We have learned to trust each other and even go on holiday together, with Richard in tow.

Pictured LR: Jackie Judd, Richard's wife and Su Heighton, his ex-wife

Pictured LR: Jackie Judd, Richard's wife and Su Heighton, his ex-wife

Pictured LR: Jackie Judd, Richard’s wife and Su Heighton, his ex-wife

Richard’s ex-wife Su Heighton, 54, a former supermarket manager, has two children, Laura, 31, and Shannon, 24. She also lives in Rugby. su says:

When Richard started seeing Jackie I was a little taken aback – she was half the size to begin with and younger than me.

When Richard proposed to Jackie, I was surprised when she asked me to be her bridesmaid. I organized the bachelorette party, helped her choose her wedding dress and even made their wedding cake.

In January of this year I contracted Covid. After three weeks in the hospital, Jackie was waiting to take me home. I love her dearly. She’s my best friend. We are inseparable.

RICHARD SAYS: I was briefly married to Su, and I’m proud that we’ve remained on friendly terms. But it’s Jackie who is the real love of my life. I never expected that they would both forge such a strong, lifelong friendship.