Bride’s plan to send letters to family telling them they’re NOT invited to her wedding is labeled “tacky” and “tasteless” — but do you agree?
- A bride plans to send letters to family saying they weren’t invited to her wedding
- She has a large extended family who live interstate and will ‘expect’ invites
- The woman was hit after she asked for advice on Facebook
- One Person Told Her There’s Just “No Classy Way” to Say “You’re Not Invited”
A bride’s plan to send letters to relatives who didn’t make it to her wedding is labeled “tacky” and “tacky.”
Seeking advice in the Australian Facebook group Modern Wedding, the woman asked if there was a “nice” way to tell relatives who might be expecting to be admitted that they weren’t invited to her special day.
While she’d like to invite “absolutely everyone,” the bride-to-be said she has a large extended family living on the highway with whom she barely talks and prefers to keep her wedding small and intimate.
“I’d like to say in a stylish way: we haven’t forgotten you, we just can’t invite you to this day,” she explained.
A bride’s plan to send letters to relatives who didn’t make it to her wedding has been labeled ‘tacky’ and ‘tacky’ on social media (stock image)
But her request was rejected, with many arguing that there is no way to send such a letter without sounding rude and ignorant.
“I can’t believe anyone would think there’s a classy way to tell someone they weren’t invited. No, there isn’t,” one woman wrote.
Another said it would seem worse to send an “invitation”, only for the recipient to find out they didn’t make the cut.
‘Why is this even a question? It would be much more tacky to send a message that you can’t invite someone,” she said.
“You invite the people who matter most and that’s all. You don’t owe anyone an explanation. You don’t have to feel obligated to invite anyone.
“Set your guest count, stick to it, and don’t worry about the rest. What are you going to do, say I’m sorry you didn’t make it to my most important person list? Actually?! This breaks me up.’
Meanwhile, a third added: “A polite way is to invite only the ones you want. No explanation needed. Your wedding, do it YOUR way.’
But others were more sympathetic to her predicament, with some suggesting she blames the pandemic on the limited number of guests.
“Frankly, given the Covid vibe, you can always blame it on that and how travel and living arrangements would again have Covid restrictions, so you keep the numbers limited,” one woman wrote.
A second added, “If anyone asks, just say you want an intimate wedding or you’re limited by venue capacity.”