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Bride labeled ‘sick’ by parents for not inviting autistic sister to wedding

Bride who excludes her autistic sister from her wedding because she knows no boundaries and always tries to kiss the groom asks if she’s wrong after being branded ‘sick and selfish’ by her parents

  • A bride invited her sister after parents refused to teach her boundaries
  • Autistic Sister Tried To Kiss Groom And Doesn’t Understand Why She Shouldn’t
  • Parents were outraged, accusing bride of ‘preferring a man over her sister’
  • Critics criticized the parents for letting her kiss the bride’s fiancé during meetups


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While wedding invitations are often a controversial issue between families at the best of times, a woman’s guest list became even more controversial when she decided to remove her own sister.

An expectant from the US who has a severely autistic and mostly non-verbal sister took reddit to reveal why she made the difficult decision to exclude her from her marriage.

She explained that her sister, Anna, “can’t understand boundaries” and the groom, Michael, liked and will try to “lean over to kiss him” and “have really bad shutdowns if she wasn’t allowed to be right next to him.” .’

Despite the Anna family trying to explain why she needs to give Michael space, she just can’t understand that what she’s doing could be invasive.

When the bride explained to her parents that she would not involve Anna in the wedding, they labeled her “selfish,” said they would not attend, and accused her of choosing “a man” over her sister.

A bride with a disabled sister expressed her complaints about her parents on a Reddit forum after allowing the sister to have no boundaries

A bride with a disabled sister expressed her complaints about her parents on a Reddit forum after allowing the sister to have no boundaries

A bride with a disabled sister expressed her complaints about her parents on a Reddit forum after allowing the sister to have no boundaries

Of her upcoming wedding, the bride said, “I sent invitations last week and I asked Anna not to come. I told my parents I understood that would mean they might not show up, but it was just a warning.’

‘Why not Anna? She has a problem touching Michael and trying to kiss him. When we were with my parents, Anna would try to grab Michael’s hands, lean over to kiss him, or would shut down really badly if she wasn’t allowed to be right next to him.’

“We’ve tried to talk to her, but there’s only so much we can do if she doesn’t really understand. I told my parents that one day I want Michael to be my partner and not Anna’s comfort.

They called me selfish and asked how I expected them to agree to something like that. They told me that Anna is disabled and may never have a wedding of her own, and while I probably have Michael for the rest of our lives, she won’t have anyone, and that Michael and I could be a little more understanding of the realities of her life. ‘

The tormented bride asked commentators not to be capable of their comments, blaming her parents' backs exclusively

The tormented bride asked commentators not to be capable of their comments, blaming her parents' backs exclusively

The tormented bride asked commentators not to be capable of their comments, blaming her parents’ backs exclusively

Commentators were appalled that the bride’s parents didn’t do more to keep Michael from being uncomfortable around Anna and even more so to let the bride one day be with Michael to herself.

“Teaching a child about the limits of the spectrum is sometimes impossible,” said one person, “it is still the responsibility of the parents to ensure that their child respects the boundaries of others.”

“I have a son on the spectrum, and I’ve had to turn down invitations a hundred times just because I knew it wasn’t an ideal environment to teach him those skills. We would be working on it at another time, and hope we can attend next time. I would never put my son in a situation that I know he couldn’t manage, and I would expect everyone else to deal with it.”

Another said: “Your partner deserves not to be sexually harassed every day, but especially on his wedding day.”

Commentators were outraged that the bride's parents wouldn't let their daughter's wedding day be hers

Commentators were outraged that the bride's parents wouldn't let their daughter's wedding day be hers

Commentators were outraged that the bride’s parents wouldn’t let their daughter’s wedding day be hers

In a later update the bride posted, it became clear that her parents decided she could no longer take Michael to see her parents due to the decision not to involve her sister in her wedding.

“They said Michael was going to be family to her and he’s got to get over it,” she explained.

“I suggested they watch the wedding over the internet and they said that’s not fair and they deserve to see things in person.”

“I asked if I could pay for someone with the right degrees to watch her that day while they were watching and they asked what I would do if they died and if I would pawn her every time.”

The bride told her parents that she would always support her sister by paying for a nursing home, but that she would not put her life on hold anymore.

She also revealed that her parents called her “sick” when she expressed concern that they weren’t addressing Anna’s lack of boundaries and how that might affect her future children.

One person suggested one way Anna could be involved in the wedding: “I would suggest you do what you would do with children: ask someone (not a guest) to watch her in another room and briefly take her to the reception.” bring. ‘

Another added that it was important for the bride to set boundaries for her wedding day.

“Your parents should back off and give you credit for having your own life and not being willing to make everything about them and their misery,” they wrote.

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