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Bartender, 24, records harassment by male customer who wouldn’t take no

A female bartender has shared the extremely awkward interaction she had with a male customer who insisted she have a “nice time” in his hotel room because he tipped her for her service.

Kayla Governor, 24, had already felt “scared and very uncomfortable” when she began recording on a shift last month, explaining that the man’s initially innocent flirtation had turned aggressive, inviting her to his hotel room to use cocaine – and did not accept no for answer.

In the video, which has gone viral on TikTok, the man can be heard repeatedly brushing off her denials, telling her she “looks like the type” and “needs it” and arguing: “It’s the least you could do.” do… because I took good care of you today. You made so much money off me.’

Bartender Kayla Governor filmed an interaction with a male customer who was harassing.  Just before she started recording, she said that the flirting had become aggressive

Bartender Kayla Governor filmed an interaction with a male customer who was harassing. Just before she started recording, she said that the flirting had become aggressive

Kayla explained that she was bartering from 5pm to midnight that night when the man came in around 6pm and stayed until closing — even ordering two drinks on the last call.

“At first, to be honest, he was flirting very innocently. He barely spoke at the beginning of my shift,’ she said.

You can hear her say repeatedly that she’s not interested, but he keeps pushing, saying she “seems the type” and “needs it”

But towards the end of the night he started asking me to take him to his hotel room.

“He kept asking me, “Come back to my hotel room, I’ll show you a good time, I’ve got Coke.” All that weird stuff,’ she said.

“Right now I don’t feel comfortable” – and then she started recording, pointing her camera at the ceiling so he wouldn’t realize.

“I won’t,” you hear them say.

“You seem like the type… I have a feeling you need it,” he replies.

“I don’t need it,” she insists.

“I don’t agree,” he tells her. “It’s the least you can do… because I took good care of you today. You made so much money off me.’

“I just don’t feel like it,” she says again.

The man asks if she has a boyfriend, if she answers in the affirmative, he asks if he is – and she says no.

“You have a lot of fans,” he says. “You have a lot of people who are so afraid to talk to you. They just stare at you like crazy and don’t say anything.’

The man tells her it’s “the least she can do” because the money she earned serving him that day

Kayla said she was “scared” and “uncomfortable,” and objects to the way some men think female servers and bartenders “owe” them.

When she jokes, “A bit like you?” he answers truthfully, “I actually have a lot to say… a lot of ideas. And I like to be different. How many boys as cute as me come here and offer you something different?’

She replies, “Yes, but I didn’t want to.”

“I just feel like you don’t know you need it,” he tells her, to which she says, “I know I don’t have that.”

Speak with BuzzFeedKayla said men are flirty and pushy with her “almost every time” she works, but this was the first time she “got really scared and really uncomfortable.”

“I think this honestly shows that women are still seen as objects and property. I do my job and my job is to serve alcohol. That doesn’t make it okay for men to pretend I owe them something else,” she said.

“I think men need to understand that being nice is part of my job. Not every bartender flirts with you. We’re nice and polite,’ she continued.

“I’m not even saying guys can’t flirt with their bartender, especially if she’s showing an interest. However, if she says no like I often have, then it’s time to respect the word ‘no.’

“Men need to understand that being nice is part of my job.  Not every bartender flirts with you,

“Men need to understand that being nice is part of my job.  Not every bartender flirts with you,

“Men need to understand that being nice is part of my job. Not every bartender flirts with you,” she said

Kayla’s video has gone viral with millions of views and many supportive comments.

“This man sounds like he could literally kill you because of rejection and because he hurts his fragile ego,” one wrote.

‘Sick… this gave me chills. Imagine what he does to drunk women!’ wrote another.

‘This is pathetic. He thinks it’s a joke. She tries so hard to be nice,” wrote a third.

A few commenters suggested that Kayla should have just been rude to the guy, but she pointed out that this is her job – and her ability to pay her bills rests on getting paid and providing good service.

‘That may seem selfish or even stupid, but in the end I have to make money. Without a tip, I go home on less than $4 an hour. It is very difficult to be a woman in the service industry. You never know how men will react,” she said.

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