A 17-year-old has revealed how she was shamed by a group of adults who made cruel comments on Facebook about her homecoming dress, claiming it was “trashy” and that she asked to be “raped.”
Grace Brumfield, an Alabama high school junior, went viral earlier this month when she… TikTok video with photos of her return, followed by the hateful comments she received.
Brumfield told BuzzFeed the black mini dress she wore was tweaked and modified to look like a modern take on Princess Diana’s famous black revenge dress.
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What do you say? Grace Brumfield, an Alabama high school junior, revealed on TikTok that she was shamed by a group of grown women about her homecoming dress
Special moment: 17-year-old posed for photos with boyfriend Zach in a field of sunflowers for the dance
Young Love: The images show them posing side by side, staring into each other’s eyes and sharing a sweet kiss
Before the dance, she and her friend Zach took their homecoming photos in a sunflower field planted in memory of a fellow student who died last year.
The footage shows them posing side by side, staring into each other’s eyes and sharing a sweet kiss.
“I loved how my pre-home photos came out,” she explained in the video’s captions. ‘My friend’s mother posted them on Facebook… This was the feedback on the photos…’
Following the slideshow of her homecoming photos were screenshots of the comments strangers — mostly adult women — left on the post shared on the Facebook group Sunflowers and Daisies.
“Wow, my mom would have killed me if I dressed like that and my dad would have killed my date if he’d put his hands on my lower body,” one wrote.
Inspiration: Brumfield told BuzzFeed that the black mini dress she was wearing (right) was modified and altered to look like a modern take on Princess Diana’s famous revenge dress (left)
Start of it all: Her boyfriend’s mom shared the photos on the Facebook group Sunflowers and Daisies, where she quickly amassed thousands of likes and comments
Going viral: Brumfield shared a TikTok video with photos of her return home and the reactions she received
‘Wow. Did her parents see her like this?’ asked another. ‘Way too short and disheveled on such a pretty girl. Leave something to the imagination, no need to put it ALL there.’
One of the worst reports, however, came from a woman who claimed the teen’s dress was an invitation to assault.
“That dress is inappropriate. You don’t have to show genitals to get attention. “You’re getting the wrong attention,” she commented. “Girls wonder why they’re being raped. Don’t dress like you’re asking. And no, I’m not jealous. I loathe girls dressing like bums instead of pretty young women.’
In a follow-up video, Brumfield shared a screenshot of the response she sent to the stranger to defend her outfit choice and remind her she was talking about a teenage girl.
‘Hey! I’m the 17-year-old in that photo that you, a grown woman, are talking about,” she wrote. ‘I wasn’t dressed like a ‘drifter’. My dress was fingertip length, my parents (who are 60 and 52) both approved the dress, and I wore shorts underneath.
Cruel: Commentators were embarrassed by the dress, including one person who said the dress looked ‘trashy’
Confusing: Many of the negative comments came from adult women who were mothers and grandmothers
Wild response: One person even insinuated the teen looked like an escort and accused her boyfriend of ‘paying for a homecoming date’
“I hold myself to a very high standard because of my sport and I’m also an election girl,” added Brumfield, who is a pole twirler.
“I’m also 4’11” so I had my dress adjusted to look good on MY BODY and to fit MY HEIGHT. Nice try ma’am. Have a nice day and I hope you don’t call yourself a Christian when you call a 17-year-old a bum.’
Brumfield told BuzzFeed she was “shocked” by the comments, noting that most of the women were “all mothers and grandmothers.”
She was particularly surprised by the woman who said she was “asking for rape” based on the way she was dressed.
“As a victim of sexual assault, it has made my blood boil because clothing is not the reason men and women are attacked,” she said.
Crossing the Line: One of the worst messages came from a woman who claimed the teen’s dress was an invitation to sexual assault
Take that: In a follow-up video, Brumfield shared a screenshot of the response she sent to the stranger defending her outfit choice
Commentary: Brumfield’s video has been viewed over 10.2 million times and many people offered her love and support in the comments
Brumfield’s video has been viewed more than 10.2 million times and has received nearly 60,000 comments, with many people expressing her love and support.
“Raise your hand if you haven’t even noticed the dress or length because you don’t feel the need to sexualize people and see them as objects,” one person wrote, while another added: “Not all the last of them sexualizing you while calling a child…’
The teen has also received support from her parents, her boyfriend and her boyfriend’s mother, who defended her from critics before the post was removed from the group.
“I dress the way I dress because I know what looks good on my body and makes me feel confident in my own skin,” she told the outlet.
“No one else has the right to tell someone to hide more because it’s distracting — older men and women need to be taught to control themselves.”